How Do You Feel About Your Flaws?

I’ve been experimenting with listening to spoken word meditations in the morning to help set the tone for my day. It’s a way to be still and breathe. Sometimes the words I hear affect me in ways I didn’t expect. When I first listened to these words from Sarah Blondin, I cried so hard that my shirt was soaked with tears. It’s likely I’ve told you you’re allowed to be a work in progress—you’re allowed to be human.…

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Holy Curiosity: Questions for Paintings, Questions for People

A number of my college classes took field trips to the Art Institute of Chicago. After completing my assignments and touring the collections, I always made my way to The Old Guitarist by Picasso where I’d sit for a hours in an out-of-the-way corner. A steady stream of people visited the painting, many seeming to almost miss the guitarist himself as they searched for the ghostly face peering over the back of his neck, evidence of an earlier painting on the same canvas.…

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Are You Willing to be Visible and Take Up Space?

If we want to put ourselves out there and share our work with others, we need to be willing to be visible and take up space. ~Fabeku Fatunmise I tend to try to take up as little space as possible. I’m fairly tall, but I often slouch and I stand or sit with my arms crossed. I even sleep curled up in a ball. I shy away from wearing bright colors or bold patterns.…

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Start as Who You Think You Are

Happy New Year! I’m still getting settled back in after all the holiday travel and celebrations. At this time of year when there is so much pressure to become someone new and better, I needed to revisit these words from a couple years ago. Enjoy! // Occasionally I’ll hear or read a line that seems like it’s speaking directly to me. I was reading the poem, Life is Calling, by Kelly Moore, when the second to last line made my shoulders drop in relief.…

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Which Parts of You Need the Most Love?

“Where we deprive ourselves of love is where we need it most.” ~ Sarah Blondin When asked what you love most about yourself, what sorts of things come to mind? For many of us, it’s likely to be the best parts of ourselves…or at least the parts we believe to be most acceptable. Maybe you love the color of your eyes, even if you’re not so thrilled about the shape of your nose.…

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What is Hard About the Holidays

If you’ve been here a while, you probably know that I struggle with this time of year. As I feel that old familiar dread creeping in again, my first reaction is to be hard on myself. I’ve been thinking about, creating strategies for, practicing, and writing about more helpful ways to navigate the holiday season for years. Shouldn’t I have it figured out by now? Let me tell you…my self-criticism certainly isn’t making anything feel easier or more jolly.…

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When Gratitude Feels Stale

I have no doubt you’ve heard the value in keeping a gratitude journal or having some sort of gratitude practice. This time of year there is an abundance of articles about gratitude. Previously, I told you about gratitude’s place in the three tiny lists I make each morning. I love these lists. They only take a few seconds and very little space. They ground my day, reminding me of what I have, that I am loved, and that I am enough.…

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Two Questions for Today

There are days when all the things I want to be doing and the things I think I should be doing keep piling up until I don’t even know where to take my very next step. Worries can fill up my mind until it’s hard to focus on anything else. Sometimes this leads me to dive into a task—any task—to feel like I’m accomplishing something, even if the task I choose is actually more of a distraction than a benefit.…

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Are You a Learner or a Knower?

There are so many people eager and willing to give us answers about pretty much everything. For a long time I accepted other people’s answers as my own. They came from people I believed to be wiser and more knowledgeable than me. Who was I to question? But that was the problem. Once I had answers, I didn’t feel free to question. I internalized the belief that answers were to be defended.…

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Do You Know the Sound of Your Own Voice?

I slouched in the back seat of the parked car as the rain poured down outside, blurring the unfamiliar buildings around us. We mostly sat in silence except for the occasional sigh of I don’t know. They all look good. What do you think? We’d had a fun morning despite the rain and the traffic, but now it was time for lunch. The treat of going out together somewhere special was overshadowed by the monumental task of choosing a restaurant.…

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