Hi! I’m Johanna. (It’s pronounced like the name Hannah…just put a Jo in front.) You can also call me Jo, for short.
I wonder if our stories have something in common…
I spent years of my life striving to know all the answers and keep everyone happy. I watched people for cues about who they expected me to be, afraid they might realize I wasn’t good enough.
I chased after achievements in an attempt to prove my worth and then wondered why I didn’t find them satisfying. I avoided trying anything new because I might make a mistake.
I hid my opinions unless I was sure they matched those of the people around me. I worried my relationships couldn’t handle the strain of conflict or disagreement.
I shoved down my emotions because I didn’t think I had a right to feel them. I didn’t let anyone see that I was lonely, hurting, and afraid because I thought I was the only one facing those struggles. I didn’t want to seem weak or needy.
No matter how hard I tried to fit in and make everyone like me, I never felt like I belonged. The harder I tried to be someone else, someone better, the less I liked myself.
Any of this sound familiar?
I still do these things sometimes because…well, I’m still human. But I’m not alone. We’re not alone.
As a life coach, I support fellow humans who are tired of people-pleasing start trusting themselves. I’m on a mission to help people recognize their inherent worth, express themselves with courage and integrity, and connect deeply in relationships.
You don’t have to keep changing yourself to please other people.
I’m certified through the Courageous Living Coach Certification program, which is rooted in a holistic philosophy grounded in supporting clients where they’re at. Learn how we can work together to help you creatively use all aspects of who you are to show up as yourself in every situation.
I started this blog in 2014 because the work I was doing with my life coach was changing the way I thought about myself and my relationships and what was possible. I couldn’t keep what I was learning to myself! My writing has also appeared on Tiny Buddha, Kind Over Matter, Becoming Who You Are, The Mudroom, Possibility of Change, and more.
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When I’m not coaching or writing, you can find me sewing clothes that fit my long arms and quietly creative spirit, walking in the woods, or playing tug-of-war with my Boston Terrier.