You've been looking to others for cues about who to be—how to think, act, speak, look—for so long that it's hard to remember what is really you and what is a performance.
You've made yourself as small as possible to avoid being a burden, setting aside your needs so others can have what they want. You're afraid to upset anyone, so you hold back your opinions until you're sure they match those of the people around you. You've been trying to fit yourself in around the edges of other people's lives, searching for where you belong.
It's exhausting to be everything for everyone and it never satisfies your longing for deeper connection.
As a life coach, I support fellow humans to stop the people-pleasing and start trusting themselves.
I don't believe that the answer to people-pleasing is to just stop caring what anyone else thinks. It's normal to want people to like us. Not caring has never helped me feel more connected to another person...not even to myself.
The thing is, we try to change ourselves to please others when we don't believe that who we are is good enough.
If you struggle with believing you have to change yourself in order to fit in, coaching can help you uncover, value, and express the richness of who you are.
Together we'll identify your unique blend of strengths, values, qualities, and preferences. You don't have to become someone else or put on a different version of yourself for each role and relationship. We'll explore ways you can creatively use all aspects of who you are to show up as yourself in every situation.
Let's start by saying hello.
Step 1. Schedule a complimentary, no-obligation 60-minute Hello Session. You can do that right here.
Step 2. Your confirmation email will include a link to a questionnaire from me. Before we hop on the phone, I’d like to know a bit about you and what you’d like to get out of coaching with me.
Step 3. You will return the questionnaire to me at least 48 hours before your booked session.
Step 4. At the scheduled time of your Hello Session, we’ll start digging into the shifts you’d like to make and leave you with insights and practices you can apply in your life. You'll experience what it's like to work with me as a coach and we’ll use the opportunity to make sure we’re the perfect fit before you commit.
Step 5. Then we’ll get started! If you decide to work with me, I’ll tell you the exact steps for getting started. If you decide not to work with me or if we aren’t a perfect fit, I’m happy to share other resources to help you get what you need.
After your Hello Session, if it feels right to both of us to continue working together, we’ll meet twice a month for 3 months. I don't believe in one-size-fits-all coaching. You've had enough of trying to squeeze yourself into something that was designed for someone else. Instead, our coaching relationship is something we'll create together.
I like to think of these sessions as a safe, supportive, judgment-free space to take an honest look at what is going on in your life, who you truly are beneath all the expectations, and what else is possible for you. We set you up to build your self-trust as you make your desired changes real in your day-to-day. I will listen deeply, ask you questions, guide you through exercises, and reflect back what I hear. You'll bring your honesty and openness. We'll both bring a lot of curiosity and kindness.
Your investment is $600 (or 3 payments of $200)
The initial commitment of 3 months (6 sessions) allows us to gain momentum. At the end of three months, we can discuss options to best support your continued growth.
Six 60-Minute Sessions
We’ll explore ways you can creatively use all aspects of who you are to show up as yourself in every situation.
We’ll co-create personalized practices to help you put your insights into action in your daily life.
Don’t scramble to take notes. With session recordings you can revisit those a-ha! moments any time.
You’re not alone. I’m available for accountability, check-ins, practices, and celebrations between sessions.
The short answer…I don’t. Coaching isn’t about me telling you what you should do. I’m guessing you get enough of that already. What works for me might not work for you anyway. Instead, we’ll work together to dig underneath all those external expectations to uncover your own wisdom about what is right for you. I will ask you questions, guide you through exercises, and reflect back what I hear. I may offer invitations, but the choice is always yours.
You will need to set aside dedicated time for our calls (1-hour twice a month). We’ll also co-create between session practices that fit you and your life to put your insights into action in your daily life. In my experience, consistent tiny actions can be more powerful than one-off grand gestures. Also, I’d invite you to consider…What might change if you invested the time to get crystal clear on what truly matters to you and used that to guide future decisions about what gets added to your plate?
First, I want to acknowledge you for recognizing that you want to make some changes in your life and looking for ways to give yourself the support you need. Those of us who tend toward giving of ourselves to please others often fear taking more than we deserve. I get it and I’ve asked this same question. I’d invite you to consider what might happen if you get really clear on your values, priorities, and boundaries? What if you knew and trusted yourself enough to make decisions with confidence and freedom instead of striving to win approval? You can be more generous toward what truly matters to you when you limit what you give to what does not.
The conference call service I use allows you to join the call via phone or computer. I’ll send you the link, phone number, and PIN number before our session. I do suggest using headphones to help minimize echoes and background noise. It’s also useful to have paper and pen handy.