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Where Are You Holding Yourself to a Different Standard?

There’s often a disconnect between the way we see ourselves and the way we see others. We say things to ourselves that we would be horrified to say to another human being. We demand perfection from ourselves that we would never expect from anyone else. I very much want to have relationships and be part of a community where we don’t have to hide pieces of who we are. I want us to celebrate together—the big victories and the tiny joys.…

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Curiosity and Consistency

Yes, that would be such a helpful thing to do. I can see how it would support me in making the changes I want to make in my life. Have you ever thought something similar? I know I have. How often do you follow through on consistently implementing that helpful thing in your life? There are countless practices we can do, questions we can ponder, and habits we can form. There are lots of tools that can help us become more aware of what’s going on within us, process through our experiences, and express ourselves in ways that make us proud.…

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What is Saving Your Life Right Now?

We generally know what’s making life hard, but how often do we take the time to notice what is helping? Every year Anne Bogel reflects on the question inspired by Barbara Brown Taylor’s memoir, Leaving Church — What’s saving your life right now? I usually think about how I’d answer the question, but I’ve never written out an answer to share with you. While there are things that remain constant—books, Pixel snuggles, journaling, music, exercise, nature—there are also things that I’m particularly leaning into during any given season.…

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How Do You Feel About Your Flaws?

I’ve been experimenting with listening to spoken word meditations in the morning to help set the tone for my day. It’s a way to be still and breathe. Sometimes the words I hear affect me in ways I didn’t expect. When I first listened to these words from Sarah Blondin, I cried so hard that my shirt was soaked with tears. It’s likely I’ve told you you’re allowed to be a work in progress—you’re allowed to be human.…

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An Eye-Opening Truth About Belonging

We sat around the circular table, discussing. Everyone else seemed to freely share their answers, stories, questions, and opinions. I concentrated on my breathing to keep the tears from falling. No one seemed to think like me and, yet again, I felt like an outsider instead of one of the group. I had told myself that it was ok to be different, that I didn’t have to be like everyone else to belong with them.…

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How Happy are You?

I had an interesting conversation with someone about a pattern she’d noticed in her life. After about six months in situations that initially seemed great, she’d start feeling stuck and questioning whether it was what she really wanted. This realization got her wondering, can we ever be 100% happy? It’s a totally natural thing to want to be happy. Although there are differing opinions about the worthiness of happiness as a primary goal, I think most of us deep down would like to be happy if we can.…

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What is Your Relationship with Praise and Criticism?

How do you respond when someone criticizes you? What will you do to earn someone’s praise? What about when the praise you were hoping for isn’t there? Criticism hurts and I sometimes struggle to keep it from stopping me. I can be too dependent on praise, looking for others to assure me I’m good enough. Other times I shy away from positive attention, afraid people might resent me. I don’t want to live according to the whims of other people’s opinions.…

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A Few Thoughts for When Your Holidays Aren’t Flawlessly Jolly

It’s that time of year again. There are lights and carols and gifts and gatherings. The holiday season can bring with it lots of love, generosity, and joy. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t also stress, grief, tension, and loneliness. Setting the standard at magical is a lot of pressure, isn’t it? The past couple years I’ve shared some things that are helping me prepare for the holidays instead of dreading them.…

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Saying Yes to My Hunger for Mystery

Have you ever arrived at an anticipated milestone only to be disappointed when it didn’t satisfy the way you hoped it would? When has your desire for answers kept your from seeing the wonder of mystery and the joy in learning? I’m honored to be at the Mudroom saying yes to my hunger for mystery. Join me?…

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The Habit I’ve Been Missing

I’ve been feeling a bit unfocused as I think about what to share with you this week. My schedule has been busier than usual, filled with extra family time and fun activities. The additions to my schedule have been good things, but that doesn’t mean they haven’t distracted me from the practices that keep me engaged with my day-to-day life. My journaling, in particular, has been sporadic at best. Last year at this time, I was in the process of moving to a new house.…

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